Mothers Day 2014

Dear Mothers,
Today is a day all about you. Your kids make you sweet little home made gifts from school. Usually consisting of handprints and footprints. Your husband gets you a nice lunch or dinner with flowers to show how much he appreciates all you do. Maybe you get a break from cleaning, or laundry. Maybe you get pampered and a chance to relax. And it feels pretty good right? All these things done for you because you are MOM. But what about those who don't get the gifts, because their baby never changes.

I will be honest. I celebrated 7 Mother's Days before I became a mother to an angel. And I thought it was all about those gifts, and breaks and good meals. But now I realize Mother's Day is about love. A love that only a mother can understand. A love that, like nothing else will be carried through your life until your last breath. A love that, when your child is gone, has no where to go. There is no longer a recipient of those hugs and kisses when you feel like giving them out. There is no one to snuggle with and cuddle when the time comes. There is someone missing from those Mother's Day pictures.

I hated Mother's Day last year. It was my first Mother's Day without Jacob. I avoided Facebook at all costs, because I knew I would see pictures of every Mom with her "sweet babies". (the same one's she was just complaining about the day before). I didn't want to celebrate. I didn't want anything. I didn't even want a picture of me with my kids, because I knew I would be missing one of them. My Mother's Day photos would never be complete again. My husband asked that we get just one picture of me with them, if not for me, but for the kids sakes. So we took one. Just one. It still hurts to look at. But I have it, and I am glad. I will be taking one more this year. Just one.

Mother's Day is a day that is suppose to be joyful and happy and relaxing, but when your child is gone, Mother's Day is just another reminder that you are not the person you used to be. So, If you know an angel Mom, do me a favor and give her a hug today. Reminder her she is a mother, and MENTION her child. Because that is what we all want. We want our children to be remembered. And I promise, you won't be the "reminder" that our child is gone, but you will be the reason we can go home and smile again.